Doctor-Dads: Unwind Stress, Rewrite Habits, Renew Energy, Reconnect
I'm Danny Poelman, DDS, a Very Experienced, Certified Life Coach who helps
Doctor-Dads & Doctor-Moms
Dealing With:
burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships
To
heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits),
WITHOUT
adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation.
Do One or More of These Sound Like You?
A Doctor-Dad or Doctor-Mom experiencing:
- Â Â Overwhelm and Exhaustion: Feeling constantly overwhelmed by the demands of work and family responsibilities, leading to exhaustion and burnout.
- Â Â Lack of Work-Life Balance: Struggling to find a balance between your demanding career as a doctor and your role as a parent, leading to feelings of guilt and frustration.
- Â Â Persistent Stress: Dealing with high levels of stress from work/family pressures, long hours, and the need to constantly stay updated and on top of your game professionally.
- Â Â Emotional Drain: Feeling emotionally drained from dealing with traumatic experiences (or past trauma) or difficult patients, and struggling to cope with the emotional toll it takes.
- Â Â Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms: Turning to unhealthy habits such as overeating, excessive drinking, over-netflixing, over-porning, or substance abuse as a way to cope with stress and numb your emotions.
and...
- Â Strained Relationships: Experiencing strain in your relationships with your spouse, children, self, or other family members due to your demanding schedule and emotional exhaustion.
-   Loss of Passion: You feel like you’re getting by, but “something’s gotta give,” and it’s just a matter of time before you either keel out, do something you regret, or just continue a slightly zombie-like life.
-   Self-Neglect: Neglecting your own physical and mental well-being in favor of taking care of others, leading to excessive people-pleasing and not saying “no” when it would benefit you.
- Â Â Isolation and Loneliness: Feeling isolated and lonely due to the demanding nature of your job and the lack of time/energy for socializing and connecting with others outside of work.
- Â Â Fear of Failure: Constantly worrying about making mistakes or not being able to meet the expectations placed on you, both professionally and personally.
"I Learned to love life again"
“I learned to love life again. The future became an exciting idea instead of something that I always feared or something that caused me worry and anxiety. The control and confidence I have in myself now is something I can't ever remember having before in my life.” -Matt
"My life is better than it ever has been"
“Hey man. just wanted to reach out and say thank you for helping me on my journey. My life is better than it ever has been. My marriage is better than it ever has been. My wife and I have a deeper connection and people around me make comments about me being different and I've been able to share with a lot people about my journey. Just wanted to say thank you. Just hit 6 months of sobriety and things are looking brighter than ever! So thank you for starting me on the right path and teaching me tools that i still use every day.  I am truly forever grateful for you. Hope you're doing well!” -Austin
Hi! I'm Danny Poelman, DDS.
I'm a Certified Life Coach (ex-dentist) who has been coaching clients full time for 6+ years.
My favorite clients always end up being doctors (who seem to find me). I get doctors, for obvious reasons. They get me.
Also, as a dad of 3 myself, I really love working with other parents and family-oriented people.
I am trauma-informed.
I am stress response informed.
I am patriarchy-informed (patriarchy creates issues for men too).
I am empower-your-client informed :)
Really though. I used to hustle with the best of them. Never taking vacations. Getting home from a long day treating patients, care for kids, collapse, hope I could rest enough to be ready for the next morning, which often came too soon. Weekends were too short too! Hamster wheel.
When my body compelled me to slow down, I got to learn how to work through and process some dormant trauma, and how to recover from burnout.
I tried every form of treatment/modality I could find along the way.
This style of coaching that I use (and am certified in) with clients now is my favorite, because it works so stinkin' good! And it's backed by science.
I'm a big fan of: whatever works. Even if it means working with a... Life Coach (I used to think life coaches were weird and a joke by the way. Look at me now).
My clients (and my) real, actual, remarkable results are what make me a believer.
The driver behind all of these burnout patterns is actually learned thought patterns, that so many of us have been taught. It's really not your fault.
Life can have so much more ease, flow, fun, enjoyment to it. Even if you change nothing about it other than your underlying thought patterns, and the way you manage stress responses/trauma along the way.
Once you work the internal thought patterns, any external changes you may want to make will become clear to you.
I know how to help doctors in a game-changing way. That's why they often resign with me multiple times.
If you can relate, I would LOVE to meet you on a free call.
-Danny
Check out the testimonials (many of them from doctors).
A Well-balanced Doctor-Dad/Doctor-Mom with a:
- Regulated nervous system
- Well-managed mind
- Intentionally designed life (daily approach, habits, the way you think/feel/respond to situations)
Will better be able to:
- Love, teach, guide his/her children
- Give his/her patients the highest quality of care
- Make powerful, intuitive, value-driven decisions
- Keep/develop habits in line with the kind of person he/she wants to be
- Masterfully navigate his/her stress responses along the way
- Create the financial success he/she dreams of in a sustainable way
ALL while actually enjoying and wanting to be living the life he/she is living.
Private, 1 on 1 Coaching Calls
On Zoom, from wherever you are, to accomadate your busy schedule and reduce travel time.
My default is COMPLETE confidentiality (if that is a concern of yours).
Teaching, Skills/Tools, exercises
I'll give you science-based, use-able, uncomplicated, practical tools for rewiring your mind to suit your goals.
We'll use them together in sessions and/or you have the option to practice outside of sessions as well.
A lot of times, for doctors especially, less is more.
No Such Thing as Being Behind
The last thing you need is another thing to feel "behind" with. That's why in my coaching program, there is NO SUCH THING as being behind.
Any exercises discussed are optional, and you are always right where you are meant to be. We always start from right where you are.
Your Next Step: Schedule a Free Consultation Here Right Away (just below)
"I realized my brain was being rewired"
 “My biggest challenge was managing my thoughts and feelings. I let them get the better of me constantly, and I felt just swept away in the current. I felt like there was nothing I could do. I felt helpless and lost. This experience catered to me individually. It gave me tools that I can use in a variety of situations to deal with a variety of triggering emotions or thoughts. It helped me develop self-control by developing self-respect and self-love.
I was presented with a situation where I usually would have reacted the old way in the past. Instead, that way of reacting didn't even cross my mind. I realized that my brain was being rewired, and that it was actually working.
Because of this program, I have learned to be confident in myself and what I can accomplish. And I know how to keep progressing." -Hyrum
"Less stressed/heavy/frustrated, More light"
"My husband joined your coaching program a month or so ago and though the two of you have only met three or four times so far, the difference I have observed in him over the last few short weeks has been beautiful. He laughs and jokes and teases more. He is excited and focused and motivated. He is less stressed, less heavy, less frustrated. He is light. He's always been pretty darn incredible to me, but now he's believing it too. And it's so thrilling!
Thank you for creating your wonderful coaching program. Thank you for working to understand and empower your clients." -Wife of Client
"I signed up to kick a habit. Danny helped me with so much more"
"Working with Danny has changed my life. I feel like a completely different person now, compared to when I started. I have had so many friends, family members, and colleagues ask me what is different about me. I am not so focused on things from the past, but filled with so much confidence in the present and ultimate hope in the future. This has impacted my relationships 100% for the better and changed the dynamics of my family. My life has improved in every way. I have more confidence in myself and my business, more love for myself and others, greater hope for my future, more gratitude for my past (mistakes and hardships).
Prior to meeting with Danny, I felt like I was not living up to my full potential.Â
I signed up for the free session with Danny and I loved what he said and the more I thought about it, the more I felt like it was the right thing to do. I had tried everything - gone to my Bishops, talked to my parents, talked to my siblings, read books, gone to the 12-step meetings, worked on habits, and mustered all my will power. I had struggled with pornography and masturbation most of my life, so I have been working on this for a long time. There had been years of sobriety and I found and implemented successful habits and routines, but it seemed to always creep back in and I lacked the confidence to think and feel that I would ever be in control. I was mad at myself and ashamed at myself for losing control.
I also lacked the confidence in myself due never truly realized the impact of my upbringing until I started working with Danny. From our first coaching session, I learned and took to heart the “Thought Model” and that has changed my life. This is the single greatest and most empowering tool I have learned in my life.
Danny was so great at asking the right questions and diving deeper into the heart of my specific issues. Before each coaching session, I felt unsure of what we were going to talk about and each session, we talked about something in my life that needed to be resolved. Each coaching session, I learned to recognize truth in myself and link them to thoughts and I learned something that helped me in my life EVERY Session - it was unbelievable!Â
I signed up because I wanted to kick pornography and masturbation once and for all. But, Danny helped me with so much more! Insecurities, doubts, lack of confidence, family dynamics, relationships, career help, and the power of the mind (abundance mentality, and manifesting).
I really can’t say enough good things. My confidence in myself has never been stronger. I love life more now than I ever have before. I was on a train ride a few weeks ago and I was thinking about my life and my progress this year and I had the profound thought that “There is no place I would rather be. There is no life I would rather have than mine.” How amazing is that?! That is what Danny has given me in a nutshell. Danny helped transform a man that was filled with insecurities, bad habits, regrets, and shame from his past, to a man that wants no other life but his own. That is a miracle!Â
If you struggle, don’t get down or discouraged or think you are less worthy. You have just not learned the skill to cope with and overcome them. That is what Danny can help you with. That is what he has helped me with. If you were like me and tried everything and are sick of dealing with the same old stuff - make a change and sign up for coaching sessions with Danny.
I still remember what Danny told me on my free session. He told me that “Your life can be so good that porn will not be relevant anymore.” I took the leap and I am so glad that I did! Every facet of my life is better as a result!" -Ben
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NOTE:Â the website says "doctors," but I also work with many entrepreneurs, executives, and other professionals, and really just anybody who wants to learn how to use science-based, practical tools in a powerful coaching setting to more easily create the life experience/results they want.
The cool thing about working at the thought-level and mindset level (and feelings work) is, there's nothing we can't coach on. It actually works better if you bring your WHOLE SELF to the sessions.
