Being more excited about the future than the past used to come so much more naturally, right?
When the future is no longer exciting, let's be honest - it's a bummer!
All you need to do is learn how to create this mindset intentionally for yourself.
Start today by reading these steps.
It’s 50/50 here and 50/50 there. Tell yourself:
I am meant to experience negative/uncomfortable emotions half the time and positive/comfortable emotions half the time.
You are already 100% worthy. Stop spending time trying to prove your worth.
Start making your decisions as though you are already 100% worthy as a human.
Always have been. Always will be.
If you don't take care of yourself now, this signals to yourself that it will be like this in the future.
Start building something sustainable now.
This includes wanting to grow/obtain/achieve while also embracing where you are now.
Did you know you can do both at the same time? It's true.
The only way your past affects you is how you think about your past in the present moment.
Your current thoughts are totally optional.
Show your future self that you can make peace with your past. Otherwise you will just dread more of the same.
There's no way around discomfort in life. But the flavor of the discomfort from proactive, intentional growth tastes way better than the discomfort of shying away from your potential. Trust me. I've tried both.
Get good at failing. Use failure to your advantage.
Learn to seek out worthy fails. The kind where you're putting yourself out there.
Stop inhibiting the learning by avoiding the failing.
If you haven't yet, but want to, learn the skill of not looking at porn.
Practice making plans near and far in the future that you follow through on. Plans that fit with your goals. And make sure you include some plans that you know will be easy to enjoy.
Brains are built for stories. Tell a story about your life (past, present, future) that serves you.
Here's a secret. You actually get to choose your purpose. Even if you borrow some of it from your religion. You still get to choose it.
Spend some time wording it in a way that helps you maintain a high commitment level.
Be intentional about your social circles.
Expect the future you want, to happen. Forget about the “how” right now. Start with expecting.
The "how" will end up being different than you expect. Start with the best "how" you know, and adjust from there.
Expecting is so much more important than nailing down the perfect "how" right away.
Maybe trade some short term false pleasure (porn) now for some long term natural pleasure later.
What can you do today that your future self will thank you for?
Waiting to enjoy your life is part of the problem.
Part of why you dread the future might be because you haven't shown your future self that you will let yourself enjoy the process.
Know that you can enjoy your life without sacrificing your values.
Enjoying the process now is a lot more crucial than you think to help you live in alignment with your most important values.
Want to learn how to do this?