Interview With an LDS Surgeon, Bryan Smedley (Past Client)

Click to watch interview with Bryan who uses Life Coaching vehicle to go from:

exhausted, worn out, depressed

to

Empowered, feelings-literate, kinder to self, more positive home-life/relationships, looking forward to things more, healing his mind

He says he looks forward to coaching calls, gains more energy and efficiency in life by taking time to do it, and says

"Coaching on the mindset around dread/procrastination of doing patient charts affected 5 other areas of my life that week too."

Tune in to get inspired by what Bryan created for himself.

Who I Am, Who I Help, & How I Help Them

My name is Danny Poelman.

I’m a Certified, Expert Life Coach.

I certified at the Life Coach School (with Brooke Castillo) right when the program was at its peak level of effectiveness (in my opinion).

I’m a husband and father of 3 kids. 

My family and I have lived on the French Riviera for the last 6 years. 

I love basketball, being in the sun/nature, and moving my body. 

This year, lifting weights is my favorite, with running/biking/swimming in between.

My thinking/analyzing brain loves science-based processes.

I also love and value spirituality. I grew up Mormon and am no longer Mormon. Many (not all) of my clients have also been either Mormon or Post-mormon or something in between. I love coaching all the different nuanced people in between.

I get people who grew up in conservative, high-demand religions.

I continually find ways to open and expand my spirituality. I enjoy exploring and continually learning.

 

I’m a highly sensitive person with big emotions. This, at times, has felt like a nuisance. 

Now, I know how to channel it as a super power in my coaching. It is part of what makes me such a great coach.

And, yes, I still have some difficulty managing it in the meantime (it’s an ongoing practice).

I am a super-listener, because I listen with more than just the 5 senses.

People find it easy to open up to me because of some of my natural tendencies/gifts.

 

I practiced as a dentist for 3 years (graduated from University of Southern California Dental School). I've also coached many doctors through the years (because I get them as well).

I stopped working as a dentist because my hands started shaking.

This was one of many physically limiting symptoms that came up for me as my body was finally ready to process trauma from being sexually abused as a young boy.

I am a Complex PTSD survivor.

 

It took me years to get through the toughest parts of healing.

My hands stopped shaking. My sleep improved, along with many of the other PTSD symptoms.

I still have more to do, but I can function at a high level and have room for the continual nature of that healing process.

It gets better and better.

 

One of the ways I coped in the past was with a pornography habit. Ultimately I didn’t want it in my life but I would do it anyway.

 

Through my journey of healing, I tried everything from:

• many different therapists and types of therapy
• EMDR therapy
• cognititve behavioral therapy
• sex addiction therapists (even though I was only viewing porn every 3-6 weeks, I thought I needed this back then)
• IFS, or Parts Work
• Neurofeedback
• psychiatrist
• medication
• 12-steps
• acupuncture
• chiropractors
• energy workers
• different types of meditation
• mindfulness
• many other (my psychiatrist told me “you’ve tried more things than any of my patients”)

 

I like being open and finding what works to create actual results.

I did a lot of healing from trauma through all of this.

Was still stuck with the porn habit even after all that.

 

Found life coaching (after seeing its impact on my wife, Lindsay). Finally helped me break free from my unwanted habit.

Got certified as a Life Coach.

Was one of the first, if not the first, to adapt powerful mindset tools from the life coach school (originally used for sustainable weight loss) to help quit a porn habit.

It has proven incredibly effective.

Everyone says it’s the most helpful thing they’ve tried when they go through this coaching process with me.

 

I've worked with men for 6+ years, full time.

Through my personal experience and my experience as a coach, I’ve seen it all.

I now coach men and women (or however you identify) on all sorts of subjects.

People who bring their whole selves to the coaching process are the best fit.

 

The methodology is Thought Work, but with a holistic approach. I've realized that all of my personal work with trauma-healing sets me apart from many of the coaches who also use mindset work and thought-work.

 

We use the tools/methodology to powerfully address a specific goal you have in life.

Also, we coach on anything coming up in your life along the way that feels important, or feels like a block.

 

We address the root of the issue (starts at the habitual thought level).

My clients create sustainable transformation through this process.

In other words, it sticks.

 

They leave with tools they can use for life to address all sorts of goals in their life.

They leave their unwanted porn habit (or other) of years and years behind for good. With confidence and self-trust.

 

Clients come to me for coaching on 1 or 2 things.

We end up coaching on lots of things.

 

I typically coach smart, high-achieving people who want to train their brain to transform habits, heal, better boundaries and work life balance, improve relationships, or enrich their life at the next level.

Also work with many doctors (and other professionals) wanting to manage the stress that comes with patient care.

 

Some of my areas of expertise that I am uniquely qualified to coach people through are:

• Unwanted habits (porn/other)
• Excessive People-Pleasing
• Anxiety/Depression
• C-PTSD, Unresolved Trauma (post therapy or in conjunction with) 
• Religious and Relational Trauma from narcissistic abuse
• Money Mindset (and manifestation principles for those who enjoy it)
• Business coaching for solopreneurs
• Self-care for burnt out doctors (or other professionals) and stress management
• Marriage/relationship coaching

Also, I’m an Ally (LGBTQ+). I want this to be crystal clear.

 

I don’t push agendas on clients. They bring their own agenda. We get to go where you want when you’re ready to go there.

 

Meeting with a coach regularly gives you the opportunity to observe your mind along the way, build rapport with each other, and create a space in which your brain can feel safe to explore, question, identify limiting beliefs (or beliefs inhibiting healing), and transform your life by transforming your mind. 

 

An inside-out approach is the kind that lasts and builds momentum. This allows for more ease and flow, and less hustle/burnout.

 

I lean heavily on science-based approaches and the science of how the human brain works.

We play around with wu-wu/manifestation for those clients who find that enriching/fun (optional).

 

I LOVE my clients. This is another one of my gifts as a coach. I remember details about my clients. I keep them strictly confidential. But I use my deep knowing to enhance the individual coaching process. You don’t ever have to tell me anything you don’t want to.

For those who embrace this process, the changes my clients experience are profound.

 

It works better for people who don’t try to say what they think I want to hear. But who will voice it when they feel resistance to something. And we don’t push, but challenge, question, and explore. The way for you becomes clear with this curious, non-judgmental approach.

 

You are already incredibly powerful. This coaching process helps you realize that power that is already within you.

 

The 3 principles mentioned in my motto are:

1. Transform Habits.
2. Heal Your Mind.
3. Enrich Your Life.

Transform Habits: 

This has to do with behavioral habits as well as thinking/feeling habits your automatic brain has learned.

I am a master at helping people train the habits in their brain in a new way.

Heal Your Mind:

Healing is part of why I am here on this earth. I don’t do the healing for you.

I help you discover your own self-healing capabilities to a further extent than ever.

Unlearning some of the damaging thought-patterns you’ve learned (through traumatic past or other) is something we can always be on the lookout for. We make room for it.

Enrich Your Life:

I love the word, “enrich.” With unwanted habits, we learn to make your life so good that that habit becomes irrelevant.

We learn new ways of interacting with the negative feelings too.

We up-level your relationship with yourself and your ability to follow through on commitments to yourself. Also, we reprogram your mind to making more money if that’s something you desire. See the multiple meanings of “enrich” here?

We can also work to enrich your other most important relationships (partner, kids, etc.)

 

Now that you have a feel for me, if you want to explore options to get help from me, schedule a free consult with me now.

Dental Student Transforms Life and Habits without Added Hustle (including unwanted porn habit)

 

Full Interview w/ James Christiansen

• -what worked
• -what didn't
• -what was new about this
• -now he does "exactly what he wants to" with his habits
• -how this internal work has allowed him to quit his porn habit easier than ever, and how it's  changed other areas of his life

Past Client Ben's Results (Interview Audio): Make Life So Good Porn Becomes Irrelevant

Interviewed 1 year after we stopped working together. Ben describes how he benefited during coaching with me and also well after coaching with me as he continued to apply the tools he learned in the program.  

• 1 of top 3 best decisions of his life 
• 1 year later: life is better than he imagined it could be 
• as an entrepreneur, he doubled his salary (we coached on business as well) 
• totally in control (not only with porn, but in many areas of his life)

Listen in now to hear Ben's inspiring results he created for himself through this coaching process.  

Want results like these for you?