Would You Rather Look at Porn or Feel Anxiety?

If your answer was “look at porn,” then… (read below)

As long as this is your rule of operating, you will continue to go back to your porn habit.

One of the biggest reasons behind an unwanted porn habit is that people want to escape/numb/avoid their uncomfortable feelings (like anxiety), and they use porn to do it. Usually along with other things.

Out of this following list of feelings, which one would you be willing to feel instead of view pornography?

Depressed, insecurity, Fear, Frustration, worry, impatience, shame, self-doubt, angry, impatient, lonely, unsupported, grief, sadness, confusion, overwhelm, an urge for porn.

Remember, if it feels difficult to feel a feeling (which is how so many of us have learned to do it, so don’t beat yourself up about it), the part that is the most difficult is the resistance we have to feeling that feeling. 

Using and depleting willpower to resist feeling a feeling is the part that makes it feel so difficult. Not to mention, it’s exhausting.

When you drop resistance, and allow a feeling to pass through in peace, yes, it can still be uncomfortable. But it is so much easier. You can feel light and open while feeling fear, for example. 

The feeling won’t feel stuck and exhausting. There can be more flow and movement. There can be more ease.

Mindfulness is the practice. Mindfulness is the key.

Until you learn to truly embrace and choose to feel anxiety (and other uncomfortable feelings) instead of viewing pornography, you will, at some point, go back to porn.

Answer the following questions in your head. Or better yet, go write your answers to these questions:

• -Are you willing to learn to choose being present with anxiety over viewing porn?
• -Are you willing to practice and learn this skill even if there are some mistakes on the way?
• -Which feelings are you not willing to feel instead of viewing porn? Why?
• -Which feelings are you willing to feel instead of viewing porn? Why?
• -Which uncomfortable feeling would you like to practice choosing to feel next? When might you get that opportunity? What strategies do you want to use to help you get the most out of it?

It gets easier and easier the more you practice.

Humans are made for his.

Go get it! Keep at it! Until you reach your goals. 

If you need extra help rewiring your brain around the way you feel and experience feelings, 1 on 1 coaching could be the perfect place for you to master these skills.

Click here to find out more in a free consult with me.

Danny