It This Describes You, You Really Do Want to Talk to Me Live
You are a smart, family-oriented man
You want to not want porn
You want to believe a life free from pornography is possible
You try hard
You've seen some success but you feel stuck
You are ready for a change
You wouldn't mind a more enjoyable way of quitting porn (finding more ease)
But you don't know what's next
You're tired of the shame and guilt
You're losing motivation
You're feeling less and less confident
You want to learn to trust yourself again
You want to feel excited about your future again
You want to let go of porn for good, in a sustainable, sex-positive way
2 Different Ways to Work With Me:
Group Coaching or 1-on-1
Both Awesome! Both Incredibly Valuable.
Which will fit better with your style?
Group Coaching
- Experience the healing dynamic of group work (particularly with a subject matter that we have learned to create so much shame around)
- Sessions led by Danny
- We are using a unique, safe space, together, to explore our brains/beings in a powerful, healing way.
- Always willing to push the envelope, with buckets of curiosity/compassion, while going at a pace that works for you.
- Talk freely and candidly without being judged, while simultaneously not sitting around rehashing the same stories again and again that are holding us back (rinse and repeat)
- A focus on accessing personal power
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Seeing other people's problems solved helps solve your problems for yourself up front.
- We are trusting that everything you would get coaching on in the group is useful and helpful to the group.
- I think you will love how the group dynamic/energy adds to this process.
1 on 1 Coaching
If you really just aren't ready for the group experience
For those willing to pay a bit more for 1 on 1 attention
Tailor-fit to right where you are at
For some people, 1 on 1 just makes more sense
I love 1 on 1 coaching. Can also be a special dynamic.
Ask me more about this in a free consult
Scott
I had been able to find some success with various programs intended to avoid pornography. Sometimes I could make it 3-6 months, sometimes even a year or longer between episodes, but I never felt like I was in control. It felt like at any moment, I might have an urge and not be able to resist and I’d be down a losing spiral again. The anxiety was crushing and I felt worthless, ashamed, and helpless to control my circumstances.
In other programs I’d participated in, I felt like we never got to the the level of practical tools. There was a gap between my goal and the actions I could take to actually get there. The goal was clear, but how to achieve success was much less so. I wanted more than a hope and pray strategy, I wanted actionable intelligence that combined what I knew of brain science with my own spiritual goals and expectations. I wanted to exercise my own faith to succeed, but I wanted tools I could use to get there.
About four months into the process, I had a “Neo” moment, like at the end of the first Matrix movie, when he finally realizes he can control his environment and can see the world for what it really was. I had experienced an urge, and instead of autopilot taking over and following a familiar path to undesirable outcomes, I was able to stand apart from my urges, acknowledge them for what they were, and choose to dismiss them. I felt like I was in complete control, which was a totally new experience. I could choose the outcome myself. It was so empowering, it was the breakthrough I was looking for. I knew in that moment that even if I failed again in the future, I’d hit a turning point and there’s no going back.
I’m so much more conscious of my feelings and how those are part of my life. I’m so much more aware of myself and my thoughts and have been able to intentionally direct my thoughts in more productive directions. I was looking for a game changer, and I feel like Danny’s program delivered that. My anxiety over this issue is gone. My sense of control is a thousand times better. It’s like night and day. The shame and despair I used to feel are gone. I am more confident, and I feel so much more capable. I’ve been able to use these same principles in every aspect of my life to great benefit. I feel like I’m in complete control of my life, perhaps for the first time ever. Not in the sense that I can control events, but that I can choose how I respond to them, and that is powerful.
How in control are you now with porn/masturbation? (0 = completely out of control, 10 = I have complete control)
Scott’s response: “10”
How a Talk with Me (Free Strategy Call) Works:
- I ask you about where you are at and what you need
- You ask me any of your questions
- I tell you about my coaching program
- No pressure. No obligation.
- Either way, you end up with a clearer picture of your next step to get where you want to be.
- 30-45 minutes. I block out 1 hour in case you have questions at the end
- Live video call through Zoom
- Completely Confidential (I was a dentist. With HIPPA, I was literally trained in confidentiality)
Email me with any questions: [email protected]
"I'm ready for some help."
Trey
My biggest challenge prior to working with Danny was finding the desire to make the change. There was a desire, but learning to grow that desire to the point that I made the change for myself.
I believe all my prior experience prepared me for this program with Danny. It was different with Danny because it felt like the real deal. We were getting down to the root(s) of the problem rather than just "replacing the band-aid" on my wounds.
The moment when I realized this process was actually working to solve my problem:
That moment for me was when I realized how simple the answer really was for me. My brain had always tried to make it more complicated than what was actually right in front of me the whole time. I had never lost control, I only believed I had.
Today I still have urges. Life still goes on and there are sad moments along with the happy moments. But now, I am able to fully embrace each emotion. There is an overall feeling of content and joy in my life, completely independent of anyone or anything. I no longer feel the need to fill "the void" in my life with pornography/masturbation because there is no void!
My perspective has completely changed. I have learned to better control my thoughts and emotions and I have never been happier with life than right now! I am even sleeping better! :)
How in control are you now with porn/masturbation? (0 = completely out of control, 10 = I have complete control)
Answer: 10
Hi!
And Welcome!
First time asking for help?
Already tried other things that haven't worked?
Supporting someone struggling?
Member of the Church of Jesus Christ?
I have some videos for each one of you.
But start with this one.
Not My 1st Rodeo
Tried therapy.
Tried 12 steps.
Tried other things.
“Nothing has worked.”
This doesn’t mean nothing will work.
Your goals really are within your reach.
Watch this video.
Mike S.
After working with me:
"My biggest challenge was just crossing the finish line. I felt stalled right at the end of the race and couldn't seem to get there on my own.
I have a much better story to tell myself about addiction, which has lead to a dramatic reduction in urges for porn. I say without hyperbole, that I feel free from addiction."
Scale of 1-10, How in control are you now with porn/masturbation? “9.9999998 :)”
1st Timer. Newbie.
Scared to talk about it? I get it.
“Gotta keep the secret!” I've been there.
This is a big deal to you.
Think something’s wrong with you?
You are not broken.
You can do this.
Watch this video.
Jake
My biggest challenge prior to coaching with Danny was not being able to quit porn. It made me feel overwhelmed and hopeless.
This coaching experience is different than other things I've tried. I stopped trying to resist urges on willpower alone, contrary to what we're often told to do in the Church, and it helped so much. It was also way more uncomfortable at times, and Danny pushed me consistently in a supportive way.
I realized this process was actually working when I actually committed to my protocol and realized that I wasn't actually in my right mind going to watch porn again.
Many things have changed after working with Danny. Where do I even start? Other than my mission, these past few months have been the most formative of my life. I have grown in ways I never thought possible.
Here are just a few results:
I stopped watching porn.
I have reached a new level of increased self-acceptance and self-love.
I have made major breakthroughs in dating and interpersonal vulnerability.
I forgave my family members after years of holding grudges.
I am more self-aware of my thoughts and which ones serve me well.
I have stopped using the "checklist" mentality on dates and focus more on how well we connect.
I have become way more comfortable with uncertainty.
What Do I Do Next?
You are where you are for a really good reason.
But what’s your next step?
One small transformation at a time.
This could be perfect for you.
Find out your next step.
Watch this video.
Email me with any questions: [email protected]
Spouse, Parent, or Supporter of Loved One Struggling
Loved one struggling.
Feel powerless to help them.
"Not sure I can be okay until he puts a stop to this once and for all."
Learn to support him and you.
Feel empowered whether he changes or not.
Maybe you’re the one paying.
Watch this video.
What a past client says to those on the fence:
"The reason you are looking for help with porn is because you need help with porn. So long as you are willing to put in the time between calls, Danny can help you." -S.
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