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39. How to Make Sure You're Progressing
People come to us all the time worried that they aren't progressing:* sustainably* in the way they want to* fast enough* at all* Or everything is just getting worseIf you are here reading this, progress is probably...
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38. I Should Have Known Better
We do it. Our wives do it."I should have known better" seems like a helpful story. But it's hurting you more than you know. How to be less obsessed about making the right decision and more focused on making the best...
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37. Staying Committed and Being Uncomfortable
Looking at porn is a quick, easy way to get a big dopamine hit that tricks our brains into thinking it accomplished something important to our survival.Often times, when guys want to learn to stop looking at porn,...
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36. Special Snowflake Syndrome
You are unique. You are one of a kind. Nobody is arguing with that.But it’s possible to take this mentality to an unhelpful level. To a level that:-halts your ability to change-prevents growth-shoots yourself in the...
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35. Spending Time Self-Coaching Actually Saves You Time
If you think you can’t afford to spend time self-coaching, we ask you this:What if you can’t afford not to self-coach?Self-coaching is a way to practice managing your own mind.We’re talking about how having a regular...
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34. Validation
Lots of people want to feel validated, but what does that mean? And what does that look like in marriage?Don’t expect your validation to all come from one person. (Have a few different sources for different...
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33. People Pleasing in Marriage, Part 2
Alternatives to people pleasing:The importance of wanting.Charity: pure love.Permission to say “no” helps saying “yes” genuinely come from you.Do you think you should be abandoned? Do you think you are worth being...
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32. People Pleasing in Marriage, Part 1
People pleasing comes up a lot with people we work with.It promotes shame and secrecy, not being authentic to yourself.It can interfere with intimacy and connection and healthier relationship.How we see this show up...
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31. How Grounding Can Help Your Marriage, Part 2
What kind of thoughts are grounding?Which ones aren’t?Thoughts create Feelings, Feelings drive Actions, Actions create Results.The results in your life start with your thoughts.Thoughts are optional.What if you knew...
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30. How Grounding Can Help Your Marriage, Part 1
Like an electrical circuit, the human body has energy and even literally electricity flowing through it.Thoughts and emotions have energy to them.But what do you do when it feels like there is a short circuit?What can...
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29. What Does It Mean to Be a Provider?
How do you approach your decisions about money in your marriage?Do you feel insecure? Get defensive? Do you just defer to the one making the money to make the “big” money decisions?This comes up for people all the...
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28. The Decisions You Don't Even Know You're Making
Deciding is one of the most powerful things we do. In fact, all of your power starts with deciding.How are you directing that power?What holds you back?What decisions might you be making without even realizing it?We...
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