I thought I had to prove myself.
If I go (X amount of time) without porn, then I'll know I can do it.
What I wanted was to feel confident and capable.
Most things we do are because of how we think it will make us feel.
I'm going to prove that I can do it!
But hiding in this thought is the idea that maybe I'm not sure I can do it yet.
The brain is an evidence-finding machine. So what kind of fuel am I going to put in it?
Last year, we put unleaded gas in our diesel European rental car. The car didn't make it further than a block or two before shutting down.
It matters even more what kind of gas you put in your brain.
The gas is your thoughts.
Beliefs are just thoughts we repeat over and over.
If I give my brain the idea: maybe I can't do it. Even if it's packaged so nicely in a thought like I'm going to prove that I can do it! My brain will look for evidence that maybe I can't...